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Sunday, January 29, 2012

1st Fathers Club Meeting for 2012

I have uploaded the powerpoint files on visioning.
It was a great meeting as I encouraged those present to be more proactive and deliberate about our new year by working on our Life Growth Plan. Click on the link below for the documents.


Go here if you want some samples of vision statements done in a Young Adult Camp. This will give you some idea how to craft your vision.

Tuesday, January 3, 2012

2012 First Meeting



Yes, we are on in 2012!
First meeting will be held on 28 January 2012, Hall 2.
As usual, light breakfast served at 8.15 am.
Meeting time: 8:30 - 11:30 am.
Invite your friends and CG members.

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Men's Breakthrough Weekend


This is the group of brave men who would be willing to be on the quest for authentic manhood. I am compiling some fantastic breakthrough stories that happened over the weekend. What a powerful weekend! There were much laughter and tears! Who said men cannot open easily and cry courageously? 


One man shared with me that when he woke up the next morning on Monday after the weekend, he actually felt that he wished there was another day together with his brothers in Christ! There was tremendous bonding and authenticity on the word "go" on Friday 2:30 pm. New friendships were made and mentor-mentoree relationships were formed.


See you in the next Fathers Club meeting on 26 Nov, Sat, 8:30am to hear more from these brave men!

Thursday, September 29, 2011

Tuesday, July 26, 2011

Three Cheers for Mentors

FATHERS CLUB Meeting
1 Oct 2011 (Sat)
Hall 3, Dream Centre
Time: 8:30 - 11:30 am
Simple Breakfast: 8:15 am
Open to all men, fathers and singles. No registration needed.
Monthly Video Series on "The Quest for Authentic Manhood"

Don't forget to come with a testimony. 


This Saturday's Video Topic:




Three Cheers for Mentors!



  • The awesome, empowering impact of an "older" man
  • Exploring this rich concept called "Mentoring"
  • The Bible is filled with mentors and mentoring
  • Ten marks of a good mentor
  • The impact of mentoring
  • What to do if you want to be a mentor
  • What to do if you need, but lack, a mentor


Men’s Breakthrough Weekend (Fathers Club) 
(A Powerful Weekend Encounter just for men away from the hectic city life!) 
Date: 21-23 October 2011 (Friday – Sunday) 
Venue: Grand Kampar Hotel 
Cost: RM 270 
To indicate your interest: (Click here)


Tuesday, June 21, 2011



Four Fathers & an A-“man”
Dedicated to my Father & all men
Kao chee ming…. June 2011

Men   men   men,   lelaki-lelaki,  Father.  ./    papa,..daddy,..dan suami yang di hormati.
You too, are amazing …. yet also complicating !
To small kids, …             you're a super hero, a macho man ! !,
To young ladies,..           everything you also can,
But once married,.          your ego … wives cannot stand !    You’re also hard to understand.
That’s d’reason, each time by creation, you can only do only one thing,..but women,multi tasking. 
So you let them do every other thing, … how complementing him, …he he he !   ( pun intended )

My Papa is caring and lovable
In the 60’s, papa cycles 5 miles with my sister and I on a bicycle,
Across to other side of Klang town, to the only playground. 
We’d play & laugh as we clown around.
Yes,  Papa I do remember you cycled that far.

My Dad is a teacher, respectable & wonderful.
In the 70’s, after school, dad”ll take me on buses to KL's only swimming pool.  
Tho’ only 2 hours at The Weld pool, we’ll have endless fun, splashing under the sun !
And we’ll end with sluuurping soup after a plate of saucy chee cheong fun.
Yes,  Dad I do remember that.

My Father is magnanimous + self sacrificing.
When inflation hit in ‘74, ‘Kung Foo chow’ and ‘Hokkien mee’ at $1 was no more. 
Supper was infrequently less, ….but father will eat not, so that we can have the rest.
You"ll hide yourself in the room. But now, I know in your heart, there’s a magnanimous room!
Yes,  Father those suppers, I do remember.

But now with the time left, you're half deaf,…   I (have to) shout at you (tears) … I confess.
Now you are wrinkled & untidy…………………  I will soon too, be freckled    & clumsy.
Now you are im-punctual and slow, ………….   and my impatience grows    & shows..
“ Where is my son that I loved ?” , …..….    Silently, (tears again)………..… you must wonder
The little boy on my bicycle,
The happy son splashing fun in the sun, reaching for my cuddle
The hungry teenager, to whom I sacrificed all my supper.
So in Papa’s existence,. ..”God, our Father, help me exercise patience and tolerance”,
Pa, we’ll speak more, tho’ in quiet silence …..and spent time with you in your quiet presence.
Now I know, why old folks are quietly silent…You’re watching us display our intelligence & ignorance.
Whilst you are forgetful, I forget my son is watching & need to be mindful.  God, our Father is too.

How will my son treat me ?       Will he model after his daddy ?
I thank God for you, my son.    You’re so young but Godly already.
I thank God when you said …   no need supper, not hungry, save the money.
I thank God when you said …   no need a semi-D. A terrace please, it’s just us 3. 
You grew up without a PS2, i.pod or i.pad …and yet you still say “I love you Dad”.
When we holiday at the best,    you yearned to return home, to our very own nest. 
Son, assuredly I can rest.         You"ll be a greater Father I know, better than your Dad.
And when I’m old and all alone ……… & you put me in a nursing home,
I’m aware, is because that you care ... not abandoned, not forgotten in despair.

Men   men   men,    father papa,  hubby dan suami yang di hormati. 
So invest God the Father in your family.   Love your own mommy & daddy, kalau masih ada lagi.
For in the end, you see, that's how our children will model after you and me.
For when Fathers invest God in the family, then the following promise will come to being…
Verse 6 of Psalms chapter 23    “..Surely Goodness and Mercy shall follow me”.

A-“Man” !     ( pun intended )

Monday, May 30, 2011

Father Wound and Mother Wound



Last Saturday's Fathers Club Video Session on "The Overly Bonded with Mother Wound" was powerful indeed. For the first time, our men are discovering how our mothers affect us, even until today. The previous session was on "Facing the Father Wound", and one man testified how he wept through the session and moved on after that not only to be a better father to his children, but he decided to make a day trip back to his hometown to reconcile with his father. He has decided since then to make a monthly trip back to see his dad. 

A story like this makes the efforts all worthwhile! Father Wound are caused by their absenteeism. Mother Wound by their overly protective love and care. All the husbands at the end of the session agreed this is one video their wives must watch :)



Ministry is exciting! It is about transformed life!