31 Mar 2012 - Ten Ways to Really Love a Woman!

The men had a hilarious time talking about the women in their lives in the February's meeting. We divided the men into separate groups of married men and singles. These small groups came alive on the word go! They were asked this question:

To the married men: What are the things you find hard to understand about your wife? 

To the singles: What do you think you will find hard to understand about your future wife?

These are the results of the sharing as each group presented their findings:

Marrieds

1. Rules do not apply to them
2. Can't meet her expectations
3. Keeps us guessing
4. Tolerate/long suffering
5. Insecurity (women)
6. Finding it hard to understand her feelings/heart
7. Men not having a listening ear
8. Women (detailed) / men (not!)
9. Women like to give advice
10. For the wife to be more like me? (rational)
11. Irrational
12. The wife can do better by giving advance warning
13. Do not understand what we do not understand
14. She is always right
15. Men to be more specific
16. Moving target (men do not know what they want)
17. Is menopause license for mood swings?
18. Need to the wife to be more specific
19. Difficult for wife to say sorry!
20. Say also wrong, don't say also wrong.

Singles

1. Right all the time!
2. Important to them, insignificant to us!
3. Heart of Compassion
4. More emotional (hard for men to understand)
5. Different from men

From that I shared from my heart from my session at Women of Worth Conference. (Click here for file.)

In a nut shell, the heart of a woman is quite different from the heart of man, and we should stop finding fault in how different we are. Rather, there is a complimentary way of bringing out the best in each other.

I thought it best for March's meeting, I would like to explore a little further about the issues that were listed above. We will do another brain storming discussion on "Ten Ways to really love a Woman!" We will measure that against ten suggestions by an expert in this field of men's ministry and let's see how we fare. We go away with one thing we would do in the next one month and come back and share how we had fare. The way to grow is keep doing and evaluating in the context of a men's community. (See diagrams below.)

It will be an exciting morning! Bring a friend along. Open too to those who are not Christian.

Time and place at the sidebar. 

25 Feb 2012 - Fathers Club Meeting - Women of Worth (WoW)

I will be sharing in the coming FC's meeting what I taught at WoW Conference on 11 Feb. I did tell the ladies that I will not do justice, if I don't share what I share with them, with the men. This is because it takes two to clap! In any relationship, both must have common ground rules and principles to operate from. Otherwise, there will be much frustration on one end.

Essentially, if we go back to Scripture, this is what is said in Genesis 1:27

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.

Yet we find the greatest failure in relationships is that man is trying to make woman be like a man, to behave and think like him. The same goes the other way round and when we fail to understand why God made man and woman to be two distinct individuals with very different makeup so that man need not be alone (Gen 2:18) and both male and female fulfills a unique role only they can fulfill, we will constantly be in that relationship war.

I am convinced that when we understand our roles in the light of scripture, we will return to what God had originally intended for the beauty of relationships. Our uniqueness dovetail each other so beautifully, you will be amazed by it, just as it had amazed me since I discovered for myself these truths.

See you this coming Saturday! 

WoW Conference Powerpoint Download - Session by Pr Chris Kam

WoW stands for Women of Worth.

Yes, you read it right! I will be speaking at the conference tomorrow afternoon (Sat), taking one of the session and sitting on a forum panel.


Here's the powerpoint of the session if you are interested to know what I have shared on. Click here for the file.


I also shared an interesting video clip from the movie musical "My Fair Lady".
Click here. This is a song "A hymn to him" on "Why can't a woman be more like a man?"

1st Fathers Club Meeting for 2012

I have uploaded the powerpoint files on visioning.

It was a great meeting as I encouraged those present to be more proactive and deliberate about our new year by working on our Life Growth Plan. Click on the link below for the documents.

Fathers Club Brochure

2012 Plan

Life Growth Plan (LGP) Booklet

Broad Overview of LGP and my vision/mission

Go here if you want some samples of vision statements done in a Young Adult Camp. This will give you some idea how to craft your vision.

2012 First Meeting

Yes, we are on in 2012!
First meeting will be held on 28 January 2012, Hall 2.
As usual, light breakfast served at 8.15 am.
Meeting time: 8:30 - 11:30 am.
Invite your friends and CG members.

Men's Breakthrough Weekend

This is the group of brave men who would be willing to be on the quest for authentic manhood. I am compiling some fantastic breakthrough stories that happened over the weekend. What a powerful weekend! There were much laughter and tears! Who said men cannot open easily and cry courageously? 


One man shared with me that when he woke up the next morning on Monday after the weekend, he actually felt that he wished there was another day together with his brothers in Christ! There was tremendous bonding and authenticity on the word "go" on Friday 2:30 pm. New friendships were made and mentor-mentoree relationships were formed.


See you in the next Fathers Club meeting on 26 Nov, Sat, 8:30am to hear more from these brave men!

Men's Breakthrough Weekend

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